Asking a friend, and asking an AI, both fail differently

When you are stuck between two options, a job offer, two flats, whether to do the thing at all, you usually do one of two things.

You ask a friend. They know you, which is the whole value, but they get one side of the story and they are kind, so they tend to agree with whichever option you described more warmly.

Or you ask an AI on your own. It is neutral and tireless and it also agrees with you, because you wrote the prompt and your framing is already in it.

The interesting version is doing both at once, in the same conversation.

How that actually works

Start a chat in Unium, send your friend the link, and they join in a tap on iPhone or the web. Say what you are deciding between.

The AI opens it properly. It asks you what the two options are and what you are optimising for, and it asks your friend what they think, separately. Then it has something neither of you had alone: the case as you tell it, plus the version from someone who knows you and is not inside your head.

That second input is what stops it agreeing with you. Your friend saying "you have wanted to leave that job for a year" is a fact about the decision, and now it is in the thread.

What to ask for

  • Build the case for each option at its strongest, then say which one it finds more convincing and why.
  • Name the thing you are avoiding thinking about.
  • Ask what would have to be true for the option you are leaning away from to be the right one.
  • Research the parts that are factual. Salary bands, the area, the actual notice period, whatever you have been guessing at.
  • Summarise it at the end, so you can read it again in the morning when you are less certain.

The last one is worth doing every time. Decisions read very differently twelve hours later.

Your friend is not doing homework

The reason this works better than sending them a wall of text is that they do not have to reconstruct anything. They open the thread and it is all there, including whatever the AI already checked. They add the one thing only they know, and that is enough.

You can add a second friend to the same chat if the decision deserves it, and the AI will keep track of who thinks what.

No cost to bring someone in

One Unium plan covers everyone on the account, from $10 a month, so adding a friend does not add a bill. Getting started is free on a model we choose for you, and a paid plan is what lets you pick the model per message.

If you would rather think about a decision alone first, long press the chat and make it private. Nothing from a private chat is shared back.

Keep the decision yours

It is good at structuring a choice, arguing both sides, and checking the facts you were guessing at. It does not have to live with the outcome. Use it to see the decision clearly, then make it.

For a disagreement rather than a decision, see settling an argument.